I was seeing a guy for a few weeks. We really hit it off, I even met all of his mates. We slept together and it was amazing, if I do say so myself.
Suddenly he just stopped texting. I was on two blue ticks, and he’d be the first to view my Instagram stories.
I can’t work out what’s gone wrong and he just wont answer, it’s been two weeks. Shall I just let it go?
Dear Melissa, really sorry to hear this. It sounds like everything was heading in the right direction and then suddenly he disappeared off the face of the earth (other than the social media stalking!).
It’s hard to know what his intentions were; perhaps it was for a bit of ‘casual’ fun, or maybe he got cold feet and didn’t have the guts to tell you that. But either way you’re better than this and it’s time to move on.
My advice would be to leave things there and not to contact him again. Remind yourself that you are worth more than being ignored and get back out there where you will meet someone new who will treat you the way you deserve. But if you feel you need closure in the form of a conversation with him, give him a call and if he answers have an adult conversation about what went wrong. And if he doesn’t answer send one final message calmly saying you would like a reply to explain what happened (and hopefully he’ll have the decency to respond, if not, you know you are 100% better without him).
I have no doubt that in time you will find out what happened and he’ll probably come running back thinking he can pick up where he left off but by then I’d imagine you’ll be so passed it that it will be you not replying this time!
I hate my girlfriend’s friends. They’re all so bitchy and I think they’re kind of fake.
My girlfriend has been mates with them for about 12 years, since they were at school, but we just don’t get along.
Often they’ll make comments in front of me about how much money my girlfriend earns and how lucky I am to be dating her.
I am lucky, I get that, but I don’t need them saying stuff that puts me down. Also, my girl is always the one who organises nights out and birthday parties for the group, but when it’s her birthday the girls make minimal effort.
Last month four of them dropped out of dinner she’d planned for her 25th on the evening of the dinner with some lame excuses.
How do I stop my girlfriend being friends with these girls?
Hey Mike. This is not an easy situation for you to be in.
One thing is for sure though, I would tread very carefully getting between your girlfriend and her friends. My advice to you would be to support your girlfriend when they are being unpleasant to her and only get involved if you believe there is no other option and she is happy for you to, as this could cause a rift in your relationship.
Next time they make a comment to you that puts you down, calmly say it’s nothing to do with them and that you’re both very happy – don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself but do it in the right way.
If you try and split them up you run the chance that your girlfriend will think you are asking her to choose between you and them and that puts her in a difficult situation especially as they have been friends for 12 years.
I would suggest you take a step back, trust that your girlfriend is capable of making the right decisions, and see how things unfold… she will either realise that some/all of them are not the friends she thought they were, or they will prove to you in time that they are good friends to her and the matter will settle.
In the meantime enjoy your relationship and don’t let anything ruin it for you!